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Smoldering from the depths of me,
Smoke rises.
Out my vented chest
Butterflies flutter--
Your iris painted
the color of my minds sea.
Labradorite cinereal.
My silvered lantern.
fissured branches,
glowing ember.
Effervescent beauty seeps through me.
Chromatic metamorphosis.
Like moonlight you cast a beam,
On all the places that must
be seen.
Sepia budded vines entangled,
Growing.
I'm already something new.
© Victoria Venturella, MA, Wait a Meta, Existential Dialogues
Casanova, minas snow,
Prinophyllum,
Coral glow.
Opal luster,
Harvest moon.
Lavendula,
I’ll see you soon.
Midnight beauty,
Seven stars,
Red dazzled,
Meet me on mars.
Morning magic,
Cappuccino,
Sing me a song,
Only you know.
Ebony pearl,
Scarlet wonder,
You make my heart thump,
Is that thunder?
Silver skies,
Scintillation.
Is this a dream?
figment of my imagination?
Electric current,
Venetian chimes.
The deep gaze of your eyes.
Mi amor,
De ja vu,
It feels like I’ve always known you.
Metamorphosis,
Magnetic field,
What a gift the universe revealed.
Lamplighter,
Bluette,
Kiss me in this silhouette.
Epoch,
Buretta.
Endlessly evergreen,
Endlessly meta.
We already changed each other.
Rhododendron,
Existentia.
© Victoria Venturella, MA, Wait a Meta, Existential Dialogues
There is a path from here to there paved in reels of undeveloped film.
You are the only one who will ever see it the way you experienced it.
You get to keep all the pictures.
You can choose which way to go
but you’ll never be for certain the future of not yet.
Life lives in mystery, love, and what’s not yet known.
The power of the future not yet.
© Victoria Venturella, MA, The Existentialist, Existential Dialogues
We seem to have hit another place collectively. Many of us in disbelief that this is still happening. We have become concerned as to how long this will continue. All the social distancing, travel, and large crowd restrictions, and having to wear masks in all indoor places. Parents concerned to send their children to school. Kids worried about going to school whether its due to social anxiety or their own fear of covid and not having the vaccine just yet. Polarized views on the safety of the vaccine are causing major divides within friends and familial systems.
We still must make space for hope. Hope that one day it will not be this way. That we will have overcome this. After all, we will never have this moment back.
Savor this present experience as it is.
What a beautiful moment here in the chaos of this which we call life.
Take it all in. For all its uncertainty. All that is present in the here and now.
In this historical time to be alive.
Look at where we are.
Sit with what you are grateful for.
Cherish your travels. Every path you take in life.
Whatever direction this pandemic has taken you we all grieve the absence of what we collectively experienced. Before covid existed.
We must remember that all things that we experience in life contribute to how we interpret the world. This pandemic has given us all something to create from. Even in such grave tragedy beauty blooms brightly in the darkest corners. What feels like the end of the world becomes a gift to learn from.
During the pandemic life has continued to prevail, people have gotten married, divorced, met their partners, moved to a new place, started a new job, had a baby, started a business, started therapy, wrote books, created art, reimagined what life could look like in the future suspending how we always knew it to be.
Have compassion for how you are experiencing this situation.
Have compassion for the you that has been experiencing this situation the entire time.
© Victoria Venturella, MA, The Existentialist, Existential Dialogues
Moon Clock
In full vulnerability
Illuminating bright
Luminescence.
You see yourself glimmer
In the gaze of the Other.
Temporal rotation.
Within a shadow
We meet ourselves.
Where are we?
With myself how do I see myself?
In thought? On the page? In a recording?
In my reflections of my recent experiences.
I see myself in you. I see you in myself.
Part of each other’s present evolution.
You no longer are where you were.
One section of chapters becoming the palate to paint the next section.
Opening my evolution from the page I am on today.
Moon Clock
Time to illuminate the world to reveal who we are to ourselves.
Without the world who would we be?
How could we see who we are without all that exists beyond us?
We would be nothing without the world.
© Victoria Venturella, MA, The Existentialist, Existential Dialogues
Everything we create comes from the experiences we have in the world.
Originality is born from human experience.
The world has so much beauty to show you even in its absurdity.
If you believe it’s possible then the world inspired you.
© Victoria Venturella, MA, Existential Phenomenological Psychotherapist, The Existentialist, Existential Dialogues
#originality
#inspiration #inspire
@existentialdialogues
Even when it feels like the ground no longer exists below you,
And the outcome seems infinitely uncertain,
Allow yourself to free fall into the universe of the unknown.
So much will come from your willingness to find out what will one day be.
Be with the mystery,
Love fully even with the potential heartbreak,
New choices lead us somewhere else.
Live freely.
Live loudly.
Live into your fullest potential in life.
© Victoria Venturella, MA, The Existentialist, Existential Dialogues
Long enough to lose my rhythm,
Experience a completely new one.
When the space you created
Was with you anywhere you existed.
Being with what the experience is giving us.
Adaptation with known impermanence
Savor every unique sliver of those moments.
Your home is where you create it, but it starts
In your inner self.
Even your home can become foreign the longer you exist away from it,
Familiarity caught within all the things that have shifted for me.
Every corner reveals potentiality.
New visions are coming to me, ideas that must be written.
Home.
This is a place you create.
An empty canvas to slouch paint all over.
You build your shelter and continuously invent it.
You are the creator of your life.
Like a glimmer on a crystal rock,
Light brings out the sparkles from
Infinite angles.
© Victoria Venturella, MA, The Existentialist, Existential Dialogues
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You are a warrior. You persevered. You overcame so much to be right here where you are today.
Be proud.
Stand up for yourself.
If how you are being treated doesn't feel right, don't ignore it.
Don't ignore yourself.
You changed your whole life. You healed. You conquered.
It's not over. Life keeps going. You must continue to prevail.
Celebrate yourself. One day someone may celebrate you for all you are while existing beside you.
Never stop being your biggest hero.
After all those burning houses you rescued yourself from, how could you lay down while the walls disintegrate post flame?
Charred.
Scorched.
Still present.
Here you are.
© Victoria Venturella, MA, The Existentialist, Existential Dialogues
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Caption- [You didn't go through all that to be treated like this]
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Relationships do not magically begin where you want them to be. You must work toward having a shared existence you both want to live in. However you expected it to be won’t be how it actually is. Your partner is an entirely different human being with their own mind, and they have their own ideas as to how they imagined this going.
We all like to think that we could find “the one” that fits perfect with us, but in all reality the ones that fit perfect with us in the beginning ends up eventually having ruptures and dissonance that will need to be worked through together. Two human beings that come together will never be absolutely on point at all times. The only thing you can do is acknowledge when you are not and make space together to figure out where to go from there.
If what you imagine wanting in a relationship is not happening in the first few months with someone, consider what it is you are really wanting. Is it marriage? Is it kids? Is it everyday cuddles? Is it the everydayness of life you want to share with someone? Is it that you want to build a life with your best friend and support each other’s growth and dreams? Now consider how do you get to that point with someone? Do you skip the dates for dinner and a movie? Do you skip the endless conversations to figure out who each other are? Do you start from knowing deeply, loving deeply, and living fully enmeshed? Relationships take work to get to a place where longevity is prominent. It takes time to be the others other in this full-bodied all-encompassing way.
Then there are those people who meet and after only a few encounters they know they must be with that person. Are we all living for a situation like this to occur? These stories are rare and prevalent enough for them to exist as a rational possibility for us all to imagine it would occur for us too. If we never experience it, are we missing out? Is finding someone and facing the raw hard reality with the other meaningless? Even those people who feel they must be together after just a few encounters come up against the reality of their differences in who they are as people. There will be times where you do not understand each other, where you miss the other completely, where you disappoint the other without even understanding why, where you want to do something, but they want to do something else, where they think it is totally fine and you absolutely disagree. How you work together through these fissures is what moves the relationship along or contributes to its potential disintegration. You must learn to grow together, or you will grow apart preventing each other from fully blooming.
© Victoria Venturella, Existential Dialogues, The Existentialist
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It doesn’t feel good to feel your heart hurting.
You give yourself to the universe knowing your heart will be broken over and over again. To experience the full breadth of love.
Even dogs leave us too soon.
A life without letting yourself feel fully doesn’t feel any better.
If you proceed into whatever will be without holding back, you may experience something that it is significantly different than the rest.
Where the potency of its knowing, seeing, hearing, being with, enlivens you.
The power of the future not yet.
What if the best experiences of your life are still not yet lived?
It might hit you one day. Out of nowhere.
You are in the living room tying your shoes.
You hear them coming closer, their bare feet across the cherry wood hall.
Dancing in silence, as if your favorite song was on, their scent lingers.
Enamored, in awe, you acknowledge this is the human you built this all with.
People arrive and you have no idea when they will be here.
What are you waiting for?
Go on, lean in.
Why are you saving to feel this later?
You may outlive your dog but what if you never felt that much love?
It is better to have felt the full breadth of love then to protect yourself from feeling heart break?
There will always be tragedy in life. Live your life vibrantly.
Knowing what it feels like to love something this much, mirrors the beauty in living.
How could you experience the fullness of what love has to offer if you only bring a part of you in?
What does going all in look like for you?
What are you afraid of happening if you let yourself love them fully?
How long do we teeter on the edge of something that offers us much more?
If you believe the mystery ahead is special, it will be.
#mindset
#whatyoutellyourselfmatters
#letyourselflovefully
#livividly
© Victoria Venturella, Existential Dialogues, The Existentialist
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Victoria Venturella, MA, Existential Phenomenological Psychotherapist, LMHCA
As you walk along the sidewalk your feet cannot merge with the earth. The leaves in trees will forever blow beside you. As long as you are living the sky will exist above you. My hand against yours will forever be smaller and no matter how hard we press upon each other we will never completely merge. You can spin me out into the floor of life, letting go while still feeling my presence. We dance alone while still dancing together. Magnetically we coalesce cultivating our rhythmic promenade. Spiraling outwards into all the coordinates of this floor and then meeting again in the middle. We languish. We are forever foreign no matter how familiar. We enunciate where we are while we occupy the same space. To move together we must speak each other’s language. As we evolve individually new words will need to be translated to express the full scope of where we now find ourselves. To dance on the same floor, we must remain innovative. We will need to find new moves to grow together.
We choose to dance on the same floor for the rest of our lives within the world of floors. One day one of us will stop dancing. The floor will never reflect absence into our eyes quite like this day. Where the music streams together scenes of our shared moments, you imagine leaning me backwards. We both feel weightless. I am a memory within the permanence of our separation. Forever in your arms, forever separate.
As you whisper silence softly into my ear, embers flutter all around us from the burning fire of adventure we both loudly ruminate on. While we travel, we still dance. Alone I travel at the edge of the world along the tracks of this sacred solitude. I lean my head against this leather seat watching the trees merge from constant motion. Lifting my cheek from the seat I draw my attention inward staring at the empty seat before me. Imagination begins to paint you into where I am. Your eyes smiling at me, you tap my foot with yours. As you look out the window with me, your laughter echoes through my mind, and I am here. Where I am. Becoming aware of the time, I am no longer somewhere else. The mountain side takes the shape of our windows. You are not home. I listen to the bird singing outside, and I accept that what will be, will be. Separation does not inherently mean permanence. Your absence does not sadden me. Even if I sat along the floor weeping in the reflection of your Truest absence, I would still dance once I stood up. Often in your honor. I will not always have something to hold on to, I may be twirling solo infinitely through the center of the floor. I can exist without you, enjoy the world I live in, and still await your presence. Wherever we are, we are. It is possible for two people to be together without belonging to one another. Where they have a sacred relationship that takes on its own form. No one is obligated to stay, to be the others Other. The choice to be together is always on the table.
Cherish the experience you have in world with all things. Even a separation of impermanence could unintentionally be permanent. Life has its way of casting tragedy upon us and giving us new gardens to eat from. In the absence of the Other you may see how much their presence means to you. Even if when they are present you know this, in their absence it becomes clearer.
You are a being-in-the-world. You live in a fundamental separateness from everything that exists beyond you, while you can never separate yourself completely from the world while you are living. No exposure, no disclosure, no nakedness, no corporeal friction will ever dissolve our asymmetrical nature. We will forever live-in relation to The Other.
© Victoria Venturella, Existential Dialogues, The Existentialist
My feet hit the ground full force. Dodging people and hopping over puddles I only have two more minutes or else I will miss the train. It feels nearly impossible to make it but there isn’t time for thoughts such as this. If I had just left sooner. If I hadn’t gone back inside to look just one more time. As I arrived the train departed as if my presence was a slingshot for its synchronistic absence. Drops of rain hit my forehead. The further the train moved from me the more breath I regained. What once felt like a sinking feeling quickly morphed into relief. Suddenly I felt like I had more time. I didn’t have to go just yet. I could be right where I am. Right here. Right now.
No matter where you were going, now you have time to be wherever you already are.
© Victoria Venturella, MA, The Existentialist, Existential Dialogues
